Loneliness can happen when you don’t think you belong to a particular group, even your own family with whom you might be spending the holidays. One thing you can do to combat the feeling of disconnection is to acknowledge an attribute, virtue or strength that you share with a family member. Make cards for each member of family to give at holiday gathering.

Materials needed:

  • White watercolor paper
  • Paintbrush or sponge
  • Watercolor paint
  • Cup for water
  • markers (colors of your choice)
  • 4×6″ envelopes


  1. watercolor_cardCut or tear (the act of tearing can be therapeutic and creates a unique card shape) paper to size that will fit into 4×6″ envelope
  2. Use watercolor materials (paint, tools and water) to create a design of your choice on paper- it can be a wash of color or intricate design. There is no wrong design.
  3. Allow cards to dry
  4. On the front of the card, use marker color of your choice to write the word that best describes your shared attribute with person.
  5. On the back of the card, write a personal note to recipient that connects the two of you (based on word). Maybe it’s a memory or a maybe it’s a realization. The objective is to shine a positive light on the shared quality. (Even if it’s a potentially unpopular attribute like “hot temper” or “short attention span” spin it in a positive light so that you see not only that person’s but your own personality as a gift!)