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from our Second Annual UnLonely Interactive FilmFest.

Watch. Do. Share.

Get inspired and get involved with this film from our Second Annual UnLonely Interactive FilmFest.

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Follow the five steps below to get the most out of your UnLonely Film Festival experience!

Step 1: Watch the film.


Gerda Saunders has a fabulous sense of style. She also has a progressive form of dementia, and lately, she’s been asking herself whether all this effort she’s putting into her appearance will be worth it once she can no longer manage it herself.

About the Filmmakers

Elaine Clark, Writer/Producer, is a Producer at Radio West, of KUER.NPR Utah.  She studied Folklore and Germanic and Middle East Studies which included work for an education NGO in the West Bank.

Doug Fabrizio, the director, has been reporting for KUER News since 1987 and became News Director in 1993. In 2001, he became a host and executive producer of KUER’s RadioWest, a one-hour conversation/call-in show.


Step 2: Explore these things after watching the film.

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Reflective Questions:

  • For Gerda, clothing or style is one of her core expressions. What is your core form of expression? How do you express the most authentic version of yourself? How would you feel if you weren’t able to express yourself in the same way?
  • How would you feel about having to leave your job due to an ailment of some kind? How would you feel if a part of your identity no longer centered on your profession? How would you spend your time?
  • We see Gerda needing her husband to finish getting dressed, find her shoes, etc. How do you feel about relying on your partner or a family member to help you with your basic needs?  Would you allow it or would you design work-arounds to avoid it? Why? Have you had a discussion with your partner or loved ones about how you want to live your life in the case it becomes severely compromised?


  • Following Gerda’s example, write your own ‘field notes.’ Write about something that is ailing or troubling you, or that you are afraid of. Write without emotion and feel free to include illustrations.
  • In spite of everything, Gerda seems to remain upbeat and grateful for the positive aspects of her life, like her husband. Make a list poem of all of the things you are grateful for in your life. The big and the small. Try to add a line or two that wraps the list together and makes sense of it. Share with somebody close to you.
  • Stage your personal fashion shoot. Take a critical look at your closet: what clothes do you own that are unique, brightly colored, and grab your attention? Pull out everything that fits the description and especially the clothes that you’ve never worn because you’ve been too self-conscious. Mix and match clothes, shoes, and accessories to create unusual and eye-catching outfits. Set up your phone, or ask a friend or family member to take photos of you. Then model each of these outfits for the camera and take a few shots of each in different poses. Once you’ve modeled each of the outfits and their various permutations, look carefully at the series and determine which if any successfully serve as a form of personal expression.


PS: Looking for even more ways to "creatively connect?"  Follow this link for a few other ideas.

Step 3: Join in the conversation about the film.


  1. Joe

    Lovely film

  2. Elise

    Gerda if you read this your husband has a look i his eye of absolute admiration. My great uncle looked after his bed rested wife for over ten years and every day he was happy to do it. He died at 97 years old just happy to have loved her. I hope you don’t feel guilt of the future. It looks like you have an absolutely wonderful life partner. I hope you come to piece of mind in what ever way you need. It seems to me he is like my uncle just happy to love you. You are not a burden in peoples life you are a gift and worth the little extra time.

  3. Susan Shifrin

    Gerda, Elaine and Doug, I am the founder and director of ARTZ Philadelphia, a U.S. non-profit whose primary mission is to offer people living with dementia and those who love them opportunities to connect and interact around arts and culture. This is a beautiful short film in so many ways — it speaks to the core of who Gerda has been and is becoming; it shines with the love she and her partner have for each other; and it teaches the lesson that letting go is not giving up, and that our core remains our core no matter the illness. Gerda, you are brave and beautiful and are empowering others by your example. Thank you to all of you!

  4. Matt

    very touching film


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