Follow the five steps below to get the most out of your UnLonely Film Festival experience!
Step 1: Watch the film.
Being young and exploring your sexuality is difficult enough, but even more challenging and lonely is having to come to terms with the fact that who you are and who your parents think you are is, well, different.
About the FIlmmakers
Originally from Bucks County, Pennsylvania, director Connie Saltzman describes herself as “an actor, songwriter, painter, person with a lot of feelings, and a filmmaker.” She has acted in film and television, including The UnBreakable Kimmy Schmidt, and performs her music in and around Brooklyn and is the Co-Founder of Project Girl, the anthology series based on true stories of girlhood,” which includes Kara.
Producer Stephanie Bonner is an actor and filmmaker originally from Southern California. She has a background in dance and her work in acting led to directing her first short film and then collaborating and co-founding Project Girl. She is currently producing a pilot and is writing her first feature-length script from her home base in Brooklyn.
Step 2: Explore these things after watching the film.
- Did the intimacy of the film make you feel uncomfortable? What memories came to mind when you were watching?
- Did the exchange between the mom and the daughter sound familiar to you? If you were a parental coach, do you have any suggestions for how the mother could have handled the situation differently? And if you were a counselor for Kara, what would your suggestions be?
- What aspects of your teenage life did you hide from your parents and why? Was it ever revealed to your parents? What do you think would have happened if you had decided to hide less from your parents and include them?
- Take ten minutes and write about a time when you tried to hide something from someone. Set the scene and then try to address these questions: What and why were you trying to hide something? What were you afraid of? How did it feel to have certain parts of yourself hidden? How did it impact you in the long-run? Did you learn anything from the experience? If you feel the story relates to the Project: Girl mission, share your story at www.projectgirlseries.com.
- Sketch your former self vs. your current self with colored pencils. To help with this activity, try to find a picture of you when you were a teenager. Using a grey pencil, try to capture all of the shapes, curves, and lines you see in the photo to make the portrait as realistic as possible. Once you have finished with the realistic drawing, now is the time to add the impressions of your younger self through color. Try to remember all of the emotions and stress you felt when you were younger and try to remember where they were felt on your body. Were the curves red with embarrassment? Was your head blue and moody? Were you filled with such kinetic energy that a rainbow of colors could never stay within the lines? Once you have finished the first portrait, draw a second portrait of your current self in the same way. Find a full-size mirror and first record the shapes and lines realistically with grey pencil, but then add color impressionistically to capture your full emotional self. Where do the colors/emotions live now on your body? How do the portraits compare?
- Look in front of a full-length mirror and make different poses that reflect how you might typically look while in conversation with others. Try standing with your hands in different positions: arms crossed, arms by your side, arms on your hips. Try smiling, speaking with different tones, and at different volumes. Which of these options might make someone feel more comfortable communicating with you?
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Step 3: Join in the conversation about the film.
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